FIND YOUR OWN MAGIC: 5 Key Questions to Ask Yourself

fridgedoor_2266_351243132You are unrepeatable. There is a magic about you that is all your own. Ask yourself these 5 questions to determine your own Stamp on the world: 1)  What are your natural talents -- what comes easy to you?

2)  What were some challenges, difficulties, and hardships you've overcome, and how did you do it?

3)  What activities make you lose track of time?

4)  What do people typically seek your advice about, or need your help with?

5)  What are your deepest values, your passions?

Focus on the answers to the above questions, and watch your life change as you step into your own unique power!

2016 | A Year of Success

2016-A Year of Success What would you be doing if you knew you couldn’t fail? This profound and thought-provoking question was recently asked me by my dear friend Stephanie. So what would you do this year if you knew you would succeed no matter what? Imagine all the possibilities: would you invent a new life-saving procedure? Apply for that executive position you’ve been wanting? Create and publish – a song, a novel, a play? Really, the prospects are limitless.


But in order to fully understand success, we must first look at failure. What really is failure? We all have different definitions of failure, simply because we have different values and life experiences. A failure to one person might simply be a great learning experience for someone else. History is filled with great people who “failed” many times before they met with phenomenal success.


One such person in our recent history is Walt Disney, one of the most creative geniuses of the 20th century. I have a favorite quote by him that I keep where I can see it often: “It’s kinda fun to do the impossible.” In his earlier years, Disney was once fired from a newspaper because he was told he lacked creativity. Trying to persevere, he formed his first animation company, calling it Laugh-O-Gram Films. He managed to raise $15,000 for the company but eventually was forced to close it down. Desperate and out of money, Disney found his way to Hollywood and faced even more criticism and failure until finally, his first few classic films started to skyrocket in popularity.


I would suggest we look at failure as mere obstacles, and obstacles are there to be overcome. With everything that doesn’t work out, we have learned something valuable. With that mindset, I would submit that the only way to truly fail is to never get off the couch and try. So as long as we are trying, we are learning – we are succeeding.


Once you are out of the fear of failure and into the joy of success, how do you make great things happen? First, assess your gifts, talents, and interests and make a plan. Most are familiar with Steven R Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. Here are the highlights of his formula for success:

  • Be proactive. Life doesn’t just “happen”. You create it, whether you realize that or not, so take responsibility for your life, your choices.
  • Begin with the end in mind. All things are created twice – once in the mind, and then in the physical realm. This requires imagination, and also honesty – are you really who you want to be? Are you doing what you really want to do? If no to these questions, then you have some soul-searching to do. Create your own destiny and secure the future you envision.
  • Put first things first. Pretty self -explanatory, but easier said than done. Spend some time prioritizing things in your life. You’ll know when you get it right – good things will start happening.
  • Think win-win. Basically, it’s the attitude of seeing things as cooperative, not competitive. I love this one, and I’ll write a future article on this alone. To me, it’s all about living in abundance – no comparing, but knowing that success is one of those things that is enough to go around.
  • Seek first to understand, then to be understood. We see life through our own eyes, but when we can see it from another’s perspective, we can see a bigger, more complete picture. Now we are better able to make successful choices.
  • Synergize. Who can help you with your goals? Let other people assist you – people who are expert at what they do.
  • Sharpen the saw. You are your own greatest asset. Therefore it is imperative that you take care of you. Renew yourself often.


When looking at the New Year through the lenses of Success, what are we going to do differently? You were not put on this earth to hide – you were put here to succeed. Now go do the impossible, and have fun.

The Skinny on Self-Acceptance

 I've been on a constant diet for the last two decades. I've lost a total of 789 pounds. By all accounts, I should be hanging from a charm bracelet. Erma Bombeck What if someone told you that the key to weight loss was in your thoughts and emotions, not so much your diet. You would probably think they were crazy. Well, call me crazy I guess, because that’s exactly what I’m telling you.


Society has taught us that losing weight is all about willpower and counting calories. So when somebody cheats on their diet, they are lacking self -control. This always ends with the person feeling guilty and disgusted, with the end result being weight gain instead of loss. This also furthers a person’s tendency toward self-loathing, which is the opposite of the self -love and acceptance that is needed.


When I work with a client, I help find and release blocks that they are carrying around subconsciously. Many times these blocks are a hindrance to their weight loss goals. For example, if a person is holding onto feelings of their weight being a protection, then they will sabotage any diet they try. They won’t have a clue why they are doing it, and will chalk it up to a lack of willpower. They will then go from one diet to another, thinking that they will some day find the right one for them. This frustrating cycle will repeat itself unless they come to the realization that there is something hidden within themselves that is keeping success at bay. I have personally experienced this awful cycle myself, and have learned the importance of self -love, and its role in losing weight.


Thoughts affect our behaviors. These thoughts are provoked by emotions, which have a powerful impact on the choices we make. So if we are carrying the negative emotions of rejection, humiliation, or abandonment, we will tend to eat accordingly: stuffing ourselves until we are ill, “inhaling” our food instead of chewing it, or the complete opposite -- starving ourselves thin.


So what now, you ask. The following are some empowering actions I have incorporated into my business to help my clients conquer the weight loss quest once and for all. Some of these ideas come from my SimplyHealed training, and some I just recently found in a great book called, “Just Listen to Your Body and Eat”, which fully addresses the concept of honoring our bodies:

  • Trade all negative self-talk with uplifting affirmations – instead of, “I never lose weight no matter what I do”, tell yourself, “My healthy body naturally aligns itself with its correct weight”.
  • Address hormonal imbalances – these also have an emotional/subconscious origin, many times being an issue that runs in the family (generational).
  • Recognize where you are being too hard on yourself, and work every day to love who you are right now. By caring for yourself, you will naturally want to eat better because you will honor who you are, and will want to nourish your body (not just feed it).
  • Keep a food journal for a period of time, where you list what you have eaten that day. Just observe, don’t judge. This will help you correlate the emotions that are tied to the eating. Eventually you will be able to recognize what is driving you to eat when you are not hungry, or grabbing for the junk food instead of a nourishing meal. (This is huge, because it will help you see the connection with every other aspect of your life – very empowering!)


Life is short. And precious. Learn to honor yourself so that your thoughts and feelings reflect this truth. Magical things will happen – you will enjoy healthier foods, desire physical activity, and experience an abundance of energy. The weight will then take care of itself gracefully and effortlessly.

What the Heck is Energy Work?

Many have heard the term “energy work”, but because it is unfamiliar to them have feelings of apprehension about it.  And to others, this may be a new term. I find that people are somewhat leery of things they don’t quite understand (myself included), so I’d like to shed some light on this subject so that it makes more sense.  

Let’s first start with what energy work ISNT. It isn’t: magic, mystical, or scary. It isn’t even weird (unless of course your practitioner barks like a dog and dances like a chicken – get a new practitioner immediately!). Kidding aside, it also isn’t a substitute of any kind for prayer or any religious beliefs.  In fact, I actually had a client make the following brilliant observation: “Prayer is what invites positive circumstances, and the energy work is what clears the inner resistance to help receive it.”


Before we get into the specifics of energy work, let’s define energy itself. Energy is the capacity of a physical system to perform work. Energy exists all around and within us in several forms such as heat, kinetic or mechanical energy, light, potential energy, electrical, or other forms. Because our bodies have an electrical system, defibrillators are used to restart the heart after a heart attack. We also have an electromagnetic system, which allows all kinds of communications to occur within and without the body. This is the system that is used when muscle testing (also known as kinesiology) to find blocks or weaknesses within the body. A polygraph test also uses this system and can be compared to muscle testing, as it is used to measure the body’s subconscious response to a true or false question.


OK now onto the good stuff – what is energy work, and what does it do? I realize as I write this that because there are so many methods out there (probably too many to mention) I better stick with what I know – the SimplyHealed Method®.  This modality uses kinesiology to find blocks, glitches, doubts, even generational issues (traits that run in a family – addictions, abuse, etc) within a person’s being. Oftentimes this is happening subconsciously, so the person is aware only of the effects of these blocks, in whichever way they manifest in the mind or body –illness, anxiety, depression, etc.  Once all these are found they are cleared. Carolyn Cooper, the founder of SimplyHealed™, uses a great analogy to explain how this works:  Think of yourself as a biocomputer. As such, you store information, some of which is not serving you well – old programs, viruses, false information, etc. Just like a computer gets slow and tired over time, so do you! Especially when you are hanging onto hurtful things from the past. These things fester over time and become something much bigger and more complicated. So just like you would call a computer expert to come clean up your hard drive and software, an energy work practitioner would clean out the old programs you are holding onto.  With all the debris gone, the mind, body, and soul are now able to heal and function as they were designed to – and you are well on your way to being your best self!


I’ll share an example of how clearing emotional issues can affect the physical body. I once had the privilege of working with a client who was visiting from the Salt Lake area. We worked on many things during the session, and when we were finished he commented on how good his back felt. He never mentioned back pain to me before, and indicated that he had experienced the pain for so long that he didn’t think about it, and didn’t bother treating it – it was just a part of him. Anyway, he left my office, went to a movie with a friend, then drove the five hours to his home. When he finally got there late that night, he called to let me know that his back still felt great. He had energy, and felt like he could do anything – he had forgotten how it felt to not have that pain. So something that we cleared for his emotional well-being also helped him physically. It’s amazing how capable the body is to heal itself when its blocks are out of the way!


People ask me all the time what I do, and how it all works. In a nutshell, I refer to Will Smith, who sums it up best as a professional matchmaker in his hit movie “Hitch” – “I just help people get out of their own way.”




"If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration." Nikola Tesla